No matter what you want to change in life, the process is the same. I can help you navigate this process. Together we identify what matters most to you, what has been limiting you, and then design a personalized action plan to help you move forward. Most importantly, I keep you accountable for taking aligned action to stay on track. I can help you with:
- Career, Work, Business
Improve career satisfaction – Transition to a fulfilling career- Start or grow your business -Transform your money mindset
- Emotional and Physical Well-being
Eliminate worries, stress and anxiety- Lose weight and gain energy -Develop healthy habits
- People and Relationships
Find a soul mate – Increase emotional intimacy- Learn effective communication
- Cultivate support networks
Personal growth -Improve self-esteem and confidence -Add more play, adventure, creativity to life -Realize your true potential
If you are committed to your personal growth, you are open to new perspectives, and you are ready for things to be different. This is the fastest way to achieve your desired results. I will not enforce a formula on you because everyone has a unique path. Each coaching session is different. I combine ancient Eastern wisdom with cutting edge coaching and healing technologies to help you align yourself with your truth and highest path. New clients usually start with the 3 month package. We will meet in person if you live in the city of Marietta, otherwise we can use phone or Skype.
EXPLANATIONS OF LIFE COACHING
What is life coaching? A life coach is a professional who helps clients achieve their personal and professional goals with finding a soul mate, landing a dream job, growing a business, or losing weight. Sometimes people are not clear what exactly they want. Life coaching provides them with guidance on how to make decisions at various crossroads in life.
Life coaching offers no magic bullets or quick fixes. It relies on principles of positive psychology and empowers clients to generate lasting transformation. It takes time to build physical muscles and, similarly, a life coach helps to build clients mental muscles so they can think differently and approach life more effectively. Clients will gradually develop the strength to face any challenges in life with ease and grace.
How do you help your clients? My coaching is all about following your own unique path. I help you discover what excites you, what is meaningful to you and what has been holding you back. Together we design a personalized action plan to help you move forward and stay on track. I provide guidance, support, tools and feedback. Accountability is a key element here. Research shows that people are much more likely to complete a task when they are held accountable for the results. To me, coaching is an intimate, synergetic partnership. By combining intuitive perceptivity with cutting edge coaching techniques, I help you shift your awareness and connect with a deeper sense of purpose. This will inspire you to take actions leading to sustainable changes.
What is your background? My formal education includes a BA in Political Science and an MBA degree from Oxford Brookes, UK. I have worked in a variety of industries, including entertainment journalism, publishing, art, and finance. I received my coaching certificate here in the US and founded New York Life Coaching in 2009, dedicated to help individuals achieve self-empowerment and create a life they love.
What happens during a life coaching session? We start by taking stock of your current situation and clarify your vision. I ask questions designed to challenge your assumptions, encourage your own insights and explore your options. I incorporate various exercises and meditation to facilitate the state of mindfulness. Once your goals and anticipated milestones have been defined, you will make a commitment to take specific action steps before we meet next. We will then review the progress and make necessary adjustments until you reach your desired results. New clients usually start with a 3 month commitment. Sessions last 60 to 75 minutes and are held biweekly. We will meet in person if you live in Marietta, otherwise we can meet over the phone or Skype from anywhere in the world.
How does life coaching differ from traditional therapies? Coaching and therapies work with different paradigms. Of course each practitioner works differently but therapy tends to treat past emotional issues while coaching considers that clients are healthy, and focuses on where they are now, where they want to be, and how to get there. In general, coaching is more action oriented.
Who do you work with? I started coaching over 5 years ago and I have worked with a vast array of clients, from Broadway dancers to business owners. I work a lot with women and men in their 20s and 30s, helping them make better relationship and career choices. Many of my clients are introverted individuals seeking to create a fulfilling relationship and a satisfying career in a most authentic way. Clients who come to me are committed to their personal growth. They are open to new perspectives and ready to invest energy and resources into achieving their desired results.
TYPES OF COACHING
What is Spiritual Coaching?
Spiritual Life Coaching is for anyone who wants to know themselves in a deeper way. Spiritual coaching addresses your soul wisdom so you can be aligned with your spirit and your unique path during this life. We use spiritual tools, concepts and universal laws and ground them in a way that you can put them into everyday use. The goal is for you to live life in abundance and joy.
Are there old patterns and habits holding you back?
Maybe the way you view yourself and what you are capable of is through someone else’s lens.
Maybe you resonate with spiritual ideas but find them difficult to hold onto and apply in an everyday application.
This is the place to evolve and grow yourself into who you truly are.
*please note, all of this is non-religious and non-denominational. All we ask is that you have an open heart and a willingness to look within.
A Spiritual Life Coach can help you to:
- Facilitate understanding around why you are here and what your life purpose is
- Bring “spiritual concepts” into everyday practical use and provide the necessary tools to live life aligned with your most unlimited self…
- Step out of old patterns to create something new
- Create a new vision for yourself and your life
- Perceive yourself in an empowered way so you can feel good about the choices you make
- Cultivate your intuition and inner voice
- Live your life with more joy, peace, presence, balance and amusement
One of the most important things you need to do regularly in order to build or maintain a successful career is to review your performance. Always do more than you get paid for in order to make an investment in yourself and your future. No one has ever done only what he/she was paid for and became successful. Discover what you love to do or learn how to love what you do. When you love what you do, you will become the best at it. This is the first and hardest step, to find what you really love to do for the rest of your life and find your “WHY”. “WHY” are you doing what you are doing? Is it for your family? Your kids? For a certain lifestyle? That “WHY” has to be so strong that when you think about ityou will get emotional.That “WHY” will be the driving force that will push you to be the best at what you do.Here is where a Career Coach will motivate and guide you to take the right direction towards creating or improving your career.
When we were kids, we were fearless, happy, and unstoppable. We were doing everything for the first time in life, but that never stopped us. We tried and failed, then we tried again and again until we learned how to walk, speak, play, ride the bicycle, etc. As we are growing up, we are learning from everything we hear and see around us, and everything we experience. We develop habits, beliefs, fears, disciplines and learn from good and bad experiences, which ultimately are guiding our life. Life Coaching with J. P. Darby will help you improve your personal and/or professional life, including:
- Overcoming your fears and handle stress better
- Defining goals and developing action plans
- Help getting direction in life and move forward
- Improving balance between work and life
- Help dealing with stressful situations & depression
- Identifying obstacles and fears, along with guidance to overcome them
- Prioritizing & time management
- Help making difficult decisions in high risk situations or challenges
- Improving relationships & life overall
- Help with identifying weaknesses and core strengths to maximize potential
- Improving life by reducing stress and increasing productivity
- Help to get a grip on life
Stress Management Coaching
There is no doubt that Stress is one of our worst enemies. Stress can affect our health, relationships, career, productivity, and our entire life and well-being. But what is Stress? It seems to be like a contagious disease that once we get it, it stays and keeps growing instead of diminishing. Why? Well, stress is nothing more than a negative feeling generated by our own lack of confidence and preparedness, fear, and the unknown. Would you be stressed out if you would believe in yourself 100%, would always be prepared and fearless, and you would approximately know what will the results of your actions be? No, of course you wouldn’t be stressed out.
While we cannot predict the future, we can definitely be more confident, fearless and better prepared, in order to minimize our stress to a level where we can very easily handle it and use it in our advantage. Unfortunately, most people are focusing so much on reducing the stress, that they’re unwillingly generate even more stress. The good news is that most of the stress is generated unrealistically, and it can be easily eliminated with the right help and guidance.
WHY A LIFE COACH
How Coaching Works? Why Use A Life Coach?
Someone might say that only those that lost control over their lives need a life coach. Well, not really. In reality, anyone that wants to do and become more could use a life coach, whether you want to find your direction and clarity in life and become successful or you want to improve your performance and achieve harder to reach goals, and become more successful. Even those that think they don’t need a life coach are getting coached every single day. Life coaching has been used for centuries but most people were not aware of it because it didn’t have a name and it wasn’t defined. Life coaching is like sports coaching, but applied for one’s life performance, not sports performance. It’s that simple. The better the sports coach is, the better the athlete becomes and the more games or competitions they win. The better the life coach is, the better you become in reaching your goals.
Life coaching is for everyone, but not everyone is for life coaching. One has to be willing to improve, change, set goals and really want to reach them. The best or the worst athlete has a coach, because they simply cannot push, guide and motivate themselves to reach their maximum potential on their own. We are all human and even the best athletes want to give up at a point during their sports career. You don’t have to be lost to work with a life coach, you just have to want to become better and offer more to yourself, your family and the society. Life it’s a choice.
How To Find A Good Life Coach?
Like in any popular industry, there is a lot of confusion in the life coaching industry as well. Many think that a good life coach needs to hold a life coach certificate. While holding a life coaching certificate is not a bad thing, it is definitely not the core of what makes a good life coach. Yet, many take decisions in hiring a life coach based on whether the life coach holds a certificate or not. This should be a no brainer, as it is just common sense that a good life coach has to have much more than just to hold a certificate. In fact, most life coaches that seek to earn a certificate are those that are not confident to do this job as they don’t have the necessary skills and life experience. Remember that all of the world renowned mentors have never sought to earn a coaching certificate, some didn’t even graduate from a college.
FINDING A GOOD LIFE COACH
Here are a few things to look for when identifying a good life coach:
- Someone with a complex mix of skills, background and life experience.
- Somebody that was even born with certain skills which simply cannot be gained otherwise.
- Someone with natural born leadership skills.
- A person that learned what coaching really is at an early age, and always loved to help others.
- Definitely someone that was an athlete is more disciplined and knows what it takes to reach high performances.
- A person that was coached by a good coach, at a point in life. A good life coach has to have experience in successfully coaching others.
- Someone that has worked many years on his/her personal development with help from a great mentor(s).
- A good coach has to be patient and capable to teach others. Maybe even have a pedagogy certificate.
- A good life coach has to be a great leader with a high level of discipline, and be a people person.
- Last but not least, a great life coach has to have had an impressive life experience; as we are talking about life coaching.
As you can tell, someone cannot become a good life coach by just attending some life coaching classes. A life coach needs much more than just life coaching classes in order to become a good life coach. They need the ability incorporate the above characteristics and convey practical techniques that help others grow in a safe, nurturing and professional environment.
COACHING CODE OF ETHICS
Every profession follows a professional code of conduct that serves as a guideline for the practitioners, and inspires confidence among the clients and other stakeholders. In this chapter, we discuss the ethical practices related to the field of Life Coaching.
- From the client’s personal information to their conversations or correspondence with the life coach, everything should be treated with absolute confidentiality. The coach must obtain the consent of the client before disclosing any information. This is also applicable in cases where the coach is working within an organization. Any information including progress reports and other particulars of the client should be the released to the employer only if the client has explicitly agreed to it. If, however, the coach believes that by withholding information there is strong evidence of serious danger to the client or (an) other person(s), then confidentiality may be foregone.
- Integrity and Honesty
- The coach must ensure that all verbal and written promotional material and advertisements are truthful, honest, decent and compliant with the law of the place where the coach is practicing. No misleading information or advice should be given to the client, nor any false claims about the results of the coaching process be made.
- The coach must not prolong a coaching relationship when it is evident that the client is no longer benefiting from it, and should instead encourage the client to make a change to, or to terminate the agreement.
- The coach must seek to avoid conflicts of interest and openly disclose any such conflicts.
- The coach should accurately disclose his/her coaching qualifications, expertise, experience, and any other credentials.
- The coach should disclose to the client and his/her sponsor (where applicable) all anticipated compensation that he/she may receive from or pay to third parties for referrals of that client.
- The coach should maintain appropriate and accurate records of his/her work with the client.
- The coach should sign with the client an agreement or a contract that sets out the roles, rights and responsibilities of the coach, the client, and the sponsor, if they are not the same person.
- It is important for the coach to make sure that the client fully understands the agreement, as well as all such things as the process, the fees, the location and the frequency of sessions.
- The coach should also ensure that he/she has current professional indemnity insurance to cover the provision of his/her coaching services.
- The coach should understand and implement the clients as well as his/her own legal and other obligations with regard to nationality, age, gender, sexual orientation, religion, language, disability, and socioeconomic status, so as to avoid knowingly participating in or condoning unfair discriminatory practices.
- The coach must not try to gain financial or any kind of professional advantage by abusing the clients trust.
- The coach should ensure that his/her behavior can in no way be described as any unwelcome sexual advance or request for sexual favors, or any verbal or nonverbal conduct that is sexual in nature. The coach should respect the client’s right to terminate the coaching relationship at any point during the coaching process, subject to the provisions of the agreement or contract.
- The coach must work within the limitations of his/her own competence. He/she must identify situations where it may be necessary/preferable to refer the client to a more experienced coach or to seek the help of a qualified professional or practitioner. He/she must refer the client to a therapist if coaching is not the right intervention, like when the client is suffering from clinical disorders such as anxiety, depression, addiction, or phobia.
- The coach must treat every client with honor and dignity, respect the client’s values, beliefs and goals, and exhibit sensitivity to cultural, regional and linguistic differences.
- Self Monitoring
- The coach has the responsibility to monitor and maintain his/her fitness to practice at a level that enables him/her to provide an effective service. If his/her effectiveness is impaired for any reason, including health or personal reasons, he/she should stop working and seek advice and support.
- The coach should monitor the quality of his/her work and seek feedback from clients and other professionals.
- Supervision is the practice of discussing specific client issues with one or more colleagues in order to gain additional insight. Supervision extends the coach’s understanding and effectiveness, and supports and encourages self-monitoring. It is important to conduct supervision under strict confidentiality. The client’s name and other identifying information should never be disguised during this process.
- The coach should strive to augment and increase his/her coaching competence by participating in relevant training and undergoing continued professional development. It is the responsibility of the coach to ensure that he/she is aware of new practices, standards, technologies, and legal requirements as are relevant to the profession of coaching by participating in appropriate and relevant instruction.
- The coach must maintain a record of all such training undertaken.